Esther Perel's book made me think about several things. Most importantly, about the way we could preserve intimacy in a marriage. It's not a secret that after a few years, sexuality and intimacy fall to the second place after stability, family and daily routine. However, Esther Perel offers a few ideas and examples on how to avoid disillusionment and frustration.
The book entitled 'Mating in Captivity' (you can read the book here) is fascinating and inspiring. Readers have the chance to learn more about the way intimacy disappears and the tricks we can use to preserve it. The difference between a harmonious relationship and sexual compatibility or pleasure is HUGE.
I wanted to share with you my admiration for this revealing book. I hope this post will convince you of the importance of intimacy and harmony in your relationship or marriage.
Trapped in your own body, trying to offer the world a vague sense of your state is literally backbreaking. In the movie The Diving Bell and the Butterfly we’ll have the chance to get familiarized with the story of the late Editor of ELLE magazine, Jean-Dominique Bauby. In 1995 the famous socialite suffered a severe stroke also called a ’locked’ syndrome. Leaving his body completely paralzed and his mind working miraculously precise, was indeed one of the greatest dramas a man can ever face. The movie directd by Julian Schnabel and starring Mathieu Amarlic is a modern day masterpiece.
The audience hears the thoughts of Bauby and has the opportunity to share the most delicate moments with this person imprisoned in his diving bell. Soon it turns out that this story is more than just a biographical production. The universal story of pople who are stuck in a pretty hopeless situation and they have only one super-thin string that ties them to this world. Memories and imagiantion are the only values that keep us humans as the movie suggests, and we hear the words of Bauby in our ears…..
„Whereupon a strange euphoria came over me. Not only was I exiled, paralyzed, mute, half deaf, deprived of all pleasures, and reduced to the existence of a jellyfish, but I was also horrible to behold. There comes a time when the heaping up of calamities brings on uncontrollable nervous laughter - when, after a final blow from fate, we decide to treat it all as a joke.”
It seems humor is indeed a solution to everythings and can free us from the huge loads of stress accumulated through the years of low periods…..Give yourself a break and see how hard it is to stay sane in a world that practically drives you crazy, while you’ll left completely motionles and impotent…..
